Mummy Zee knocks married women who vow not to join husband’s family cooking
Nigerian social media personality Deborah Adebisi, better known as “Mummy Zee,” has sparked fresh debate following remarks she reportedly made on the responsibility of married women within family settings.
Mummy Zee became a viral figure after disclosing on the platform X (formerly Twitter) that she wakes up at 4:50 a.m. to cook for her husband, a gesture that divided opinion across social media. The posts around her early-morning routine racked up both critical responses and significant social reward including cash gifts and brand offers.
In the more recent remarks being discussed, Mummy Zee addressed the notion of married women vowing never to participate in their husband’s family cooking or ceremonial preparations. The fabric of her message suggests that such a refusal calls into question the notion of love and connection within that marriage. She framed the act of joining in family cooking or ceremony as more than a task—it was positioned as an expression of love, duty, and integration within the larger family framework.
Her statement seems to challenge the increasingly popular stance among some married women who set boundaries by opting out of “joining husband’s family for cooking during ceremonies” or other family-centric ritual roles. Although a full transcript of her statement is not widely published, the gist has been widely circulated on social media platforms and has generated a host of mixed reactions—from applause to strong criticism.
Supporters of her stance argue that acts of service such as cooking early, participating in family events or ceremony, help build strong bonds with in-laws and strengthen a marriage and family unity. Critics, however, say the expectation places undue burden on wives and may reinforce traditional gender roles that many women are pushing against in modern Nigeria.
The public reaction has been diverse. Some women welcomed her comment, saying it aligns with traditional values and respect for the husband’s family. Others pointed out that every marriage is unique and that forcing involvement in the husband’s family for activities such as cooking should be a matter of mutual agreement, not a fixed expectation.
While Mummy Zee’s own story shows her embracing early-morning cooking and strong support for spouse and family, her latest comments open up a broader discussion about what roles married women wish to take, what they feel obligated to, and how much agency they have in defining their contribution to the extended family.
