Joe Abah advice men not destroy mother of their children
Joe Abah, a Nigerian lawyer and governance expert, recently offered advice to men on how to behave after a relationship ends, particularly when children are involved. According to Abah, when a man falls out with a woman who has borne his children, he must do everything possible not to destroy her no matter how angry he may feel. He emphasised that restraint is required for the sake of the children and a man’s own dignity.
In his post, Abah wrote that a man must prioritise children and maintain his decency as both father and former partner. He argued that destroying the woman would ultimately damage the children and reflect poorly on the man. His call for emotional maturity and respect in such situations struck a chord on social media, especially given publicised marital disputes in Nigeria that involve children and former partners.
The context of Abah’s advice appears tied to growing public attention on high-profile relationship splits in Nigeria. The emphasis he places on children’s welfare and the man’s dignity underscores a broader message that relationship endings, however painful, demand honourable behaviour if children are involved. While his remarks are directed at men, the underlying principle extends to anyone in a breakup where children are part of the picture.
Some commentators applauded Abah for raising an often-overlooked perspective that men must behave responsibly after the relationship ends. Others noted that the advice could be applied more broadly, to both parents, and not just to men. The conversation has sparked discussion about co-parenting, respect, and emotional intelligence at the end of relationships.
